Dear Sumo Skinny,

My friend just randomly stopped talking to me.  I don’t know what I did or why she’s angry, but she won’t answer my texts and I don’t want to keep bothering her.  I don’t miss her as a friend—we were on the rocks anyways—but I want to know what I did to prevent the same thing from happening in the future, if it was something that I can change.  Do you have any suggestions?

Sincerely,

Pissed and Confused

Dear Pissed and Confused,

First, I would stop bothering her for a minute.  It seems to me that this girl is either a) a mean girl (think Regina George) or b) on the money about you (sorry, harsh).  You need to figure that out, though—was there something you did that might have offended her?  Did she mention anything to you in passing that might be bigger than it seems?

If you can’t think of anything, and you really want to figure it out, try calling her and leaving a message.  Say that you want to talk to her—don’t sound agitated when you do it—and that you’d love if she’d meet you or at least call you back.  Calling is harder to ignore than a text.

If, however, she still ignores you, brush it off.  She’s being the mean girl now.  Time to get Aaron Samuels and run.  But not to Taco Bell; you’re on an all-carb diet.

Sincerely,

Alessandra Siraco, Sumo-in-Residence

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